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How To Develop A Winning Attitude
What does it take in our everyday lives to be
successful? In order to evaluate this question it is first necessary to
understand what "success" is and what all successful people
have in common. It is probably safe to assume that anyone reading this
article wants to be successful. However, only 5% of the population will
ever reach their potential for all activities, 95% of the people will
never truly be successful. By definition, success is the realization of
a worthy deal. Success is different for every individual. For some
people, an annual income of $25,000 would be a success, for another it
may be $125,000. Whatever it may be for you, there are 5 characteristics
that you must have in common with other successful people in order to
achieve true success.
Goals are the single
most important factor in achieving success. Without a realistic goal,
how will you ever know when you have reached your success level. All
successful people set goals. All goals must be realistic, short term,
measurable and obtainable within the bounds of your own perception. As
time passes, your goals can always be adjusted upward to reach your
ultimate goal of success. However, if your initial goal is to be worth
$1,000,000 by the year end and you are currently only worth $100,000
with an annual income of $50,000 a year and this is November, you most
likely will never be able to reach it and therefore, it is unrealistic.
Biting off a job in small portions makes the eventual achievement of the
total task seem easier and manageable. All successful people constantly
set goals, re-evaluate their goals and scale them upward toward even
greater accomplishments.
A positive attitude is the second factor
that successful people have in common. I have never met a truly
successful person who I would consider a "self made" success
that did not have a positive attitude. These people relate to the world
on a positive basis. They always look for the "can do" not the
"can not do" side of every situation. "If you think you
can or if you think you can't, you're right." All successful people
truly believe not only in themselves, but in the reality of their goals.
A positive attitude is contagious and when it is sincere, the people
with whom you come in contact will relate to you and your activities
with a vitality and positive attitude that causes a winning, successful
environment.
The truth is always best to deal with for
several reasons, not the least important of which is that it is always
the easiest to remember. If you are going to be successful, you will not
have time, energy and ability to remember untruths, or lies that you
have told people. This consumes valuable energy and detracts from the
power needed to run a successful life. The truth is easy to remember and
generally, in the long term, easier to deal with. True winners are
always ready to face the truth in situations and handle things as they
deal with them on a timely basis and then proceed to get on with the
business of running a successful, prosperous life. Never having to back
track to cover up problem areas.
Research and Development
in today's society have become extremely important to all major
corporations. This is where all new products and ideas evolve.
Successful individuals have always understood this principal on a
personal level and they constantly strive to improve their own abilities
through such methods as formal educational systems, seminars, reading
books, listening to ideas the thoughts of others, and in any manner that
presents itself to them. Successful people truly believe they can
improve themselves and constantly strive to seek methods and means that
will help them accomplish this task. They also know that there is a
price to pay for this success and the return on investment is sometimes
great and sometimes small, but that the return without the investment is
always the same "0".
"Thinking is the hardest work there
is, which is the probable reason why
so few engage in it." -Henry Ford
Man's ability over all other creatures on this
Earth is the ability to think. All successful people use this talent to
improve their lives and control their own destiny. Only you can take the
initial step toward the unleashing of the power within your own mind.
The power is awesome and at times can be frightening. However, man has
abilities of the mind that many people can not or would not believe.
Anthony Robbins has recently written a book entitled "Unlimited
Power" which explains in simple terms the theories of Neuro
Linguistic Programming, the power of the mind and how to gain control
and use it. NLP was originally developed by John Grinder and Richard
Bandler as a communication system using the central nervous system.
Through this system Mr. Robbins has put forth a complete outline on how
to unleash your "performance power" and achieve goals that
before you probably felt were impossible.
The first step in using your true mental abilities
is understanding what Mr. Robbins refers to as the seven triggering
mechanisms that is sure success.
1. Passion - All truly successful people
such as Lee Iacocca have a driving force within them that sets them
apart from others. A desire, an energy that gives them the fuel to reach
their true potential. This force is a part of them 24 hours a day, seven
days a week. It never subsides. Their total existence is sustained for
the fulfillment of their goals. The passion within this individual to
achieve has been so deeply implanted, that their mental power is driven
by this force and will not let them do anything other than achieve.
2. Belief - "They can because they
think they can"-Virgil. You will only make $100,000 this year if
you first believe you can. If you do not believe you can you are telling
yourself you want it, but it is truly not obtainable. The truth of life
is that man's limits are self imposed by what the mind is given to
believe. If you expand your belief of your own abilities, you will also
expand your true realm of accomplishment. A man of whom all are aware,
lived his life with adversity, but he constantly believed he could
achieve.
Failed in business at age 31
Was defeated in a legislative race at age 32
Failed again in business at age 34
Overcome death of sweetheart at age 35
Had a nervous breakdown at age 36
Lost an election at age 38
Lost a congressional race at age 43
Lost a congressional race at age 46
Lost a congressional race at age 48
Lost a Senatorial race at age 55
Failed to become Vice President at age 56
Lost a Senatorial race at age 58
Was elected President of the United States at
age 60
With all the adversity that faced him, President
Abraham Lincoln had no reason to continually try other than the fact
that he believed it was his destiny and measure of success to accomplish
this task.
"Man is what he believes" -Anton
Checkhov
3. Strategy - A strategy is your game plan
of life. The road map you will use to accomplish your goals, ambitions
and desires. Just to believe you can earn $100,000 a year is not enough,
you must design a strategy that gives your life direction and navigates
you toward success. The key to strategy is to design a proper strategy
to achieve your success without the detours of life, to find the
shortest distance between two points.
4. Clarity of Values - Man must first
determine which things in life are most valuable to him. He must
determine his feeling about such things as patriotism, pride, love,
freedom, excellence, ownership and tolerance. These are values in
society, the moral, ethical and fundamental judgements that we, as
individuals, deem important. Without a clear system of values for
ourselves, it is impossible to believe in something with a passion that
has no value to us. Once we have established our individual value system
we are then able to determine how we can achieve success based on our
priority of values. What must we five up in one hand to accomplish what
we desire on the other. Without a value system we can never move forward
for we may be trading without increasing our potential for success.
5. Energy - Without the physical vitality
to take action, nothing would ever come of our system to this point. The
passion could build, our belief of accomplishment could be overwhelming,
we could have the best strategy or map to achieve the ultimate value for
our own life, but if not for taking the first step, nothing could ever
be accomplished. Great success cannot be separated from physical,
spiritual and mental energy that allows us, compels us, to accomplish
the most with what we have to work with. Physical energy comes from the
strength of the body itself fueled by our intake of nourishment. It is
therefore important that we fuel our engine with premium fuel (good
eating habits), not low grade regular (junk food). Our spiritual and
intellectual energy evolves from our environment and it is therefore
important that we assess our own personal environment to maximize the
energy that we can obtain.
6. Bonding Power - We have all known people
that have exhibited the ability to get along with anyone and everyone.
The ability to be a chameleon is truly the ability to connect with and
bond with others. The ability to build rapport. Being able to deal with
others as Mr. Robbins says "To effectively communicate, we must
realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and
use this understanding as a guide to our communication with
others." To be able to understand the...
7. Mastery of Communication - To take
charge and run your own mind. To learn the techniques of NLP and no
longer allow our mind to run our lives, but rather take charge of our
own mental abilities and cause them to work for our own accomplishment
of success.
"There is only one Success
- to be able to spend your life in your own way." -
Christopher Morley
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